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    Reflections on Occupy Wall Street, with photos, fun, and good wishes for the future. eBook, Occupy Wall Street: What Just Happened? (Only $.99 !) In the eBook, the Occupy movement is explored through original reporting, photographs, cartoons, poetry, essays, and reviews.The collection of essays and blog posts records the unfolding of Occupy into the culture from September 2011 to the present.  Authors Kimberly Wilder and Ian Wilder were early supporters of Occupy, using their internet platforms to communicate the changes being created by the American Autumn.

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Socializing under quarantine: What to say when you don’t know what to say…

“I send you greetings from afar.” That is the opening salvo I have thought of to try to engage neighbors and unsuspecting strangers I encounter at the park during the current state of crisis and stay-at-home orders.

Health advisers and our government are telling us to stay in our homes and to avoid physical contact with other people. And, I am trying, dutifully, to do my part. Though, human beings are social creatures. It is so hard to go through the day with my only contact being my husband (who is often working from home) and my two-year-old.

In the past, at the supermarket, I might smile at someone who crossed my path. Or, I might even start a conversation with someone who was buying the same odd brand of bread as myself. Now, as soon as I encounter another shopper, there are so many questions and fears running through my mind, I often forget to even smile. How am I supposed to figure out the dance of which way to step aside, when I am thinking about if they could be sick, if they think I might be sick, if I should have put brighter lipstick on to look healthy and put people at ease, and how am I ever going to suppress this cough?

When I take my daughter for a walk in our neighborhood, I have similar feelings, sometimes made more awkward by the fact that there are some people who you kind of know and usually stop to chat with. Is it safe to talk now? How will they know that you are not going to foolheartedly walk up to the beginning of their driveway (much closer than 6 feet away from them) like you have in the past?

On neighborhood walks, and at walks through the park, I started to notice a lot of feelings when I saw someone approaching me. One feeling is just desperation to connect and to chat with another human being. Another feelings is not wanting to frighten that other person by taking a step in his or her direction. How will she know, that I know, and that I respect the fact, that I have to stay 6 feet away?

So, as I encountered people, I started to feel words well up in me, and an urgency to shout to them. It is like two boats passing in quiet waters. You want to acknowledge their presence and to see if they want to exchange pleasantries. The words I felt I needed were simple words, to be shouted out in a hopeful manner. I was longing to say something between “Land Ho” and the words of an Easter sermon I heard, describing the back and forth call of Christians of old at Easter.

So, I tried to see if I could figure out these words and if they could be a useful, new, social contract for people during the quarantine. When you are walking around at the supermarket, or your block, or a park, you would call out to someone from 7 feet away (a hint, that you know you have to stay far away): “I send you greetings from afar”. And, the person, showing that they, too, are interested in pleasantries – and that they, too, understand the 6 foot social distancing rule and promise not to get too close to you – could shout back, “I thank you and accept from a distance…” followed by the start of a shouted conversation.

Can you picture it? Could you do it? Or, maybe the words need some refining before being put into general use…

I send you greetings from afar!

I thank you and accept from a distance!


To me, it sounds like the start of the kind of warm, friendly exchange that we need more of during quarantine. When I posted my idea to FaceBook, a friend’s adult son said it sounded like the Vulcan salutation: “Live long and prosper” which can be followed by the answer, “Peace and long life.” I would not mind people going around saying those words, either. I would just enjoy something to say to ease the tension of life under quarantine and to reach out to the other people stuck here in it with me.


Life under quarantine

COVID 19, The Coronavirus, has become part of our daily lives.

Like so many other people, I have decided to start writing and blogging again, as a result of all of my feelings and all of the time I have.Some things that have changed for me, due to the current crisis and quarantine…

So far, two of my friends have lost relatives. And, it is so sad to think that there cannot be a funeral at this time.

My mother and father are very “holed up” a few towns over. So, I can’t see them as much, celebrate family birthday parties, or take my toddler to see them.

I am not able to take my toddler to library classes or any special events.

I am not able to take my toddler to the Long Island Aquarium or the children’s bouncy play center we used to frequent.

I am stuck in the house a lot of the day with a bored toddler, trying to create activities and tasks, but also trying to create structure for our day and meaning for our daily life.

[For resources for supporting your toddler during quarantine, please see bottom of this post]

We have learned to do several kinds of video chatting, to try to catch virtual glimpses of family and old playmates. It works a little to feel connected. Though, at 2-and-a-half, there will be a few times during the call when she gets confused and asks to go to people’s homes. Sometimes crying.

Grocery shopping is frightening, even though we don’t take the toddler with us anymore. And, it is worse when there are ridiculous people with too many masks and gloves and vibes of utter fear.

I have become so desperate and needy for human company, that I pounce on any neighbors I see outside with very long, shouted conversations from across the street. When the local utility company sent a man in a van around to change our meters, I talked him up like he was a long lost friend.

One thing that has remained the same — but intensified to a frightening extent — is my love for pizza. Sure, our family used to have pizza one or two times a week, because there is a Sunday through Wednesday special. And, who doesn’t love a break from cooking? Though now, I think it is like pizza 3 times a week, and dinner on Fridays. And, if I go in to pick up the food, I gush over the owner and thank him over and over again for staying open.

I really can’t believe that I can’t buy paper towels and toilet paper, but I can buy pizza. At least that is something to be happy about.

Stay safe. Stay home (except to get fresh air on walks or outings to the park, using careful, social/physical distancing.)

Kind Regards,

Kimberly Wilder

Resources for families with toddlers during this COVID-19 crisis and quarantine:

Cornell Cooperative Extension of Suffolk County
http://ccesuffolk.org/
(Cornell Cooperative is where I found the other links below.)

“Parenting in the time of coronavirus and social distancing”
First Things website

“Five Tips to Make the Most of Video Chats”
Zero to Three website
The Zero to Three website had a wealth of information about very young children. A lot of other articles that say they address children and the Coronavirus seem to be aimed at four-year-olds and up, or even just school age children. I was so happy to find this site to help with questions relating to my two-year-old. It is very difficult to keep a 2-year-old interested in a video chat.

Election Page Updated 6/3/18

This page has information, ideas, and lists to help you run for office. http://www.onthewilderside.com/elections/

Suffolk Green Party Endorses Transgender Day Of Remembrance 2017

The Suffolk County Green Party continues its support of Transgender Day Of Remembrance (TDOR). TDOR is a worldwide event held every November to raise awareness about discrimination, violence, and murder directed against transgender (living as or expressing a gender other than the one expected at birth), intersex (biologically in-between or outside male and female), and gender-nonconforming (acting in any way contrary to gender stereotypes) people, to commemorate the lives of transgender, intersex and gender-nonconforming people around the world who’ve been killed due to this kind of discrimination and violence within the past year, and showing transgender/intersex/gender-nonconforming people and allies’ commitment toward making a more safe, understanding and accepting world. Read more »

Myles & Sargent @ PeaceSmiths Coffeehouse Friday 6/2/17

 

Open Time Maybe you, plaese come
Non perishable food Idems will be collected for L.I. Food not bombs, aka Comunity Solidarity..
$7 at door

Friday,June 2, 2017  at 8pm
First United Methodist Church, 25 Broadway, Amityville, New York 11701 (The “last church on the left” going south on Rte 110)
$7 at the door/more if possible, less if necessary

The PeaceSmiths Topical, A-Typical, Folk Music, Poetry, and Whatever Coffeehouse presents…

  • John Myles Original songwriter, poet, and guitarist. John has played the open mic events in  Long Island and Queens. His song Invisible Man has been covered by Phil Minissale.
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    Walter Sargent has played at the Coffeehouse before, Walter is an 0riginal song writer and peace activist.

  • Open Time, Maybe you?

Non-perishable vegetarian food items will be collected for L.I. Food not Bombs and the church’s food drive.  Cans of vegetables, canned fruit, or bags of rice are good.  Read more »

Alternative Education Conference 8/3 – 8/6/17

2017 AERO ConferenceMy father, Julian Wilder, was an Education Professor at Adelphi University.  He had been referenced by futurist Alvin Toffler for his work. Dad did not believe any testing, and especially standardized tests, were of any use to teachers or students.  He would have been at the front lines speaking out against Common Core and supporting Opt-out. He walked his talk. His students did projects where they learned and could actually apply their classwork in their own classrooms.  They did much more work than they would have for tests, and praised him for it.  My Dad did a lot more work grading the projects that he would have for tests.  He brought home carts full of project binders to grade.

Mention that you saw this post and get a discount to the 2017 alternative education AERO conference.

My Dad worked closely with Jerry Mintz and his organization, AERO [Alternative Education Resource Organization]. AERO holds an internationally recognized alternative education conference every year.  There is a pdf flyer for the AERO 2017 conference.  Please share it with your favorite educator.  More information about the conference, and how to register, is on their website.

The AERO conference is an annual gathering of cutting edge, innovative educators. It involves administrators, teachers, parents and students who are interested in and support the idea of learner-centered education, rather than a one-size-fits-all system. Attendees come from a spectrum of alternatives, including home schools, as well as others from the mainstream who are interested in learning about those approaches.

Keynote speakers include:  Dennis Littky, Dayna Martin, John Gatto,  Joanna Faber, and Jonathan Kozol.

Korb & Pagano @ PeaceSmiths Coffeehouse Friday 4/7/2017

Friday, April 7, 2017 at 8pm
First United Methodist Church, 25 Broadway, Amityville, New York 11701 (The “last church on the left” going south on Rte 110)
$7 at the door/more if possible, less if necessary

The PeaceSmiths Topical, A-Typical, Folk Music, Poetry, and Whatever Coffeehouse presents…

  • Rocket & the Launchers are Ken “The Rocket” Korb and Lora Kendal, with Big George on bass.
    Ken is a particular favorite of ontheWilderside since he played the Wilders’ wedding. 
  • Jesse Pagano, Blues
    Jess plays original songs on the Patchogue Music scene, He is a wonderful guitarist and a Blues man. Former lead singer of Karma Sutra and has a new CD, “Common Ground”
  • Open Time, Maybe you?

This Coffeehouse will feature plans for upcoming Earth Day and Climate marches.

Non-perishable vegetarian food items will be collected for L.I. Food not Bombs and the church’s food drive.  Cans of vegetables, canned fruit, or bags of rice are good.

Read more »

Water is Life: Protecting this Sacred Gift 3/25/17

Homecoming Water is Life ImageHomecoming Farm will be offering its Sixth Annual Spring Awakening as a gathering for those who care about the future of our Earth.  This year’s  program is entitled “Water is Life: Understanding the Challenges We  Face Locally and Globally Protecting this Sacred Gift” The event takes place on March 25, 2017 from 8:45 am – 3:30 pm at Helen Butler Hall at Dominican Village, 565 Albany Avenue, Amityville, NY  11701. Registration is required at $45 per person which includes lunch.

For more information, contact S. Jeanne Clark, OP at earthhomej@aol.com or 631-842-6000, Ext. 338. You can also register at https://www.eventbrite.com by going to the listing for “Homecoming Farm.”  Proceeds from the event will benefit Homecoming Farm.   Please visit their website at www.homecomingearth.org to learn more about Homecoming Farm. Registration form (pdf) Read more »

Top 10 Reasons Obama Wiretapped Trump

10. Trump joined the drumming circle at Occupy Wall Street

9. One of Trump’s children Opted-Out of Common Core Standardized Tests.

8. Another one of Trump’s children Opted-Out of Military Recruitment for 7th to 12th graders.

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Say Yes! to non-corporate politics

For the last 20 years, Yes! Magazine has been at the forefront of providing alternatives to the corporatocracy.  It regularly provides news of alternatives to the big corporate choices in banking, food, housing, and work.  Only in electoral politics does Yes! Magazine fail to understand that there are non-corporate alternatives. I have had a private dialogue with them previously about their myopia when it comes to electoral politics, but it seems that discussion needs to be expanded.  Yes! Magazine’s reporting continues to reinforce the corporate media mythology that the only choice in politics is between the two corporately-funded parties: the Republican Party and the Democratic Party.

Maine Clean Election Act

The current issue of Yes! Magazine is dedicated to showing local solutions in all 50 states.  I was excited to read about the Clean Election Act campaign in Maine. The State of Maine describes Clean Election funding in the following way:  Read more »

Thurston Moore and more at the New Year’s Day Poetry Marathon

Thurston Moore read at The Poetry Project’s annual New Year’s Day Marathon Reading. Ian and Kimberly attended with their friend David Kirschenbaum of Boog City.

We had a wonderful time. We caught just a few photos and videos of the proceedings.

One of the highlights was Anne Waldman’s poem about suffering. You can find a video of Anne Waldman’s performance: here. We did not have time to record the moment, we were just lucky enough to catch some of it ourselves. Thurston Moore was awesome, see the video above, and one below. Caught a video excerpt of Tracie Morris (will be posted soon). And, some more photos below. Read more »

The November Project 2016: Poetry

Ian Wilder and David Kirschenbaum

Ian and David

By David A. Kirschenbaum and Ian Wilder

David A. Kirschenbaum and Ian Wilder did a writing project this month based upon the U.S. Bill of Rights and the subsequent amendments to the U.S. Constitution. Each day Ian provided a section as a writing prompt to David to write the first poem. Ian, in turn, treating that prompt and David’s poetic response as two points upon which his poem, the second each day, responded.

11/1/16

Preamble to the Bill of Rights

Congress OF THE United States begun and held at the City of New-York, on Wednesday the fourth of March, one thousand seven hundred and eighty nine.
THE Conventions of a number of the States, having at the time of their adopting the Constitution, expressed a desire, in order to prevent misconstruction or abuse of its powers, that further declaratory and restrictive clauses should be added: And as extending the ground of public confidence in the Government, will best ensure the beneficent ends of its institution.

RESOLVED by the Senate and House of Representatives of the United States of America, in Congress assembled, two thirds of both Houses concurring, that the following Articles be proposed to the Legislatures of the several States, as amendments to the Constitution of the United States, all, or any of which Articles, when ratified by three fourths of the said Legislatures, to be valid to all intents and purposes, as part of the said Constitution; viz.
ARTICLES in addition to, and Amendment of the Constitution of the United States of America, proposed by Congress, and ratified by the Legislatures of the several States, pursuant to the fifth Article of the original Constitution

dak

Resolved, that we met in what should have been my junior year at hofstra,
the third of my six undergraduate years,
your fourth and senior year,
september 1986 through may 1987.

Resolved, the first night my family spent in our oceanside, long island home,
october 14, 1976,
with chris chambliss homering the yankees into their first world series in 12 years.

Resolved, that walking home from playing tennis, a car crashed into me,
august 2, 1980,
the first anniversary of yankee catcher thurman munson’s plane crash death practicing
take-offs and landings at the akron canton (ohio) regional airport.

Resolved, that i saw the police at shea stadium, joan jett & the blackhearts and rem opening up, upper deck shaking,
august 18, 1983.

Resolved that i still can’t remember the day we first met,
something you know annoys me,
so you ask me it often enough.
Thanks.

iw

Whereas we met when the new voice. editor at Hofstra assigned us to work together on a story about Abbie Hoffman’s 50th birthday

Whereas this was way before anyone had email or websites or facebook or linkedin accounts;

Whereas I learned a lot from you when we worked together on that story about there is no reason to fear someone saying no when you relentlessly worked to find a phone number to contact Abbie;

Whereas you are nearly the age Abbie was when you were finally able to reach him by asking his mother for his telephone number;

Whereas we could figure out when we met within a few weeks by the publication date of that issue of the new voice.;

Whereas i have no idea either when the date that we first met is, and I was not even sure whether I was a junior or senior at Hofstra at the time without looking at your stanzas;

11/2/16

Section of the 1st amendment

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof;

Please click here to see more of the November 2016 project.

Dr. Jill Stein on why the recount matters in USA Today

Dr.  Jill Stein:

Our electoral system is under increasing threat.

There is nothing more important to our American way of life than our democracy. The lifeblood of this nation is the principle that each citizen’s vote is equal when it comes to choosing our president.

But in the age of computerized voting machines and unprecedented corporate influence in our elections, our electoral system is under increasing threat. How can every citizen’s voice be heard if we do not know if every citizen’s vote is counted correctly?

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Dr. Jill Stein explains the recount on The View

Great interview with the Green Party presidential candidate Dr. Jill Stein explaining the hows and whys of the recount effort.

Disappointed with Whoopi Goldberg at the end ambushing Stein with the falsity that she has done nothing over the last 4 years and not letting Stein have time to respond to explain Stein’s activism in the last 4 years and the media blackout up through the election, including from the The View.

We need to keep Whoopi  Goldberg to her word and make sure that Stein is allowed back on The View to update them on what Stein has been doing.